Why do people piss me off

Just like toddlers. We need to know that our feelings matter and so we find other ways to satisfy the gremlins. We allow our anger to be our authority. See, our need for control is essentially a power struggle with the rest of the world. Our gremlins want us to be in control of everything internal and external. But superiority is an illusion. Which just perpetuates our anger. So we choose to hold steadfast onto this notion that a display of anger instills power, fear, authority over circumstance and people.

And when someone pisses us off, we choose anger as our weapon in a desperate attempt to salvage our self-worth. When someone pisses you off, expressing anger will not prove your superiority.

It will only leave you powerless to the situation and cast you into a deep hole of self-loathing. But I know something you can do.

Something that will make you the most powerful person in your life. Mentally let that person go. We visit graves, we play their favorite song, we look at a photo of them. But they are not alive physically.

Their body no longer exists on the earth in the same form as when we knew them. Regardless of our belief of what happens to people when they die, they remain part of our reality simply because we think of them. Therefore, if the presence of someone is weighing on you, release that person from your thoughts. I repeat: I am not suggesting, insinuating, recommending, or anything else thereof, that we kill people in our thoughts or think about killing people.

Not thinking of someone releases the control their presence has on our thoughts. When you allow someone to occupy your mind, you run the risk of victimizing yourself to their words and actions instead of taking responsibility for yourself. You run the risk of letting that person control the way you feel instead of controlling your feelings yourself. By releasing someone from thought, forbidding them from occupying your precious mental real estate, you make a conscious choice to block any related incoming or outgoing negativity.

You essentially take a leadership role in your life and prevent your circumstances from disturbing your inner peace and self-worth. Then think about times when you became angry or dissatisfied and did handle yourself well.

Think about how you felt in each situation and what you could have done differently. Think about what worked and what you should continue doing. This is a quote I came out with on my own; Personally I think every one who gets angry from time to time should think of this instead of venting out.

I work hard as I see it, and just trying to do my job. But, there are some people misunderstand this. Then I read this. Thank you Thank you for writing this.

I should free myself from any thoughts of anger, feelings other people being unfair. Hey, everyone. I forget that stewing in my thoughts does nothing productive and keeps me from feeling peaceful and happy. The more we all learn to let go of unhelpful thoughts and approach life with greater acceptance, the more we truly enjoy and appreciate each other. Have an awesome day and thank you for reading and sharing! Please keep in touch!

Thank you — I need this advice very badly. It is a situation I cannot escape as I have to be caregiver for that person. But I will learn to mentally let go every time I am away from that person. This is nonsense, who pisses you off? He must be someone who works or live with you, you cannot remove them from your brain without removing them physically fro your life! My recipe is different, take actions immediately, and end the matter in the site. Lol — thanks for sharing, Ahmad.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I agree with you Ahmad! Her solution is to act like the person is dead to you.. I humbly accept the fact that all that is said and happens at our meeting is of Your works.

God, as I go forward in life, I pray I may feel the love and the strength of our fellowship, and to not let the thinking of one individual affect my spirit. I shall go forth from our meeting today with confidence that as I pray for your care and protection, You will indeed keep us ALL safe, and sane. A lovely prayer, Bob M. Thank you for sharing! Thank you as stevie won der says in his song,for all your troubles go have a talk with God.

No one gives better counsel!! I missed something here. Sure, after the angry conversation is over, I can easily dismiss them and everything said. Where can i find a follow-up to this advice? Preferably dealing with the moment. I know that person very well. And all they do Is act act act! That person Is really frustrating! But I cannot get rid of them because that person Is my mother In law. You have a poor vocabulary — swearing is not elevating you as a person……… swearing does belittle yourself so it does give permission to your enemy to exploit you at every level……… yet you know you are so much more worthy… the first change is within yourself………… and only yourself can do it… I do not say it will be easy……..

I say it will be so much worth it……. It's not always easy to find the right place to start. Our 'What's on your mind? Keeping yourself in check There are a few things you can work on to build your self-awareness and catch yourself before you impose your crappy attitude on others: When you feel grumpy or pissed off, stop and think about why.

Does it really have to do with them? Try some stress relief strategies and see if they make a difference. Exercising or taking some time out are both good options. What can I do now? Learn how to communicate better. Try using ReachOut WorryTime to keep your worrying in check. Learn about relaxation.